I found out someone I’d been bending over backwards to help when they were off with stress was then slagging me off at the Xmas party - saying I hadn’t supported them enough. I was really upset but my mum said “you’ve made it!” And she was right - it was bound to happen eventually and now I can laugh, but I was upset at the time for sure!
Isn’t the ‘chill the f**k out, it’s not important mindset’ when it comes to colleagues just so liberating and only comes with age really. If I could get back the time I spent busting a gut worrying about my popularity in the workplace. But then would we automatically have the balance in our views today because of age or experience I wonder
This is the most practical advice I’ve seen in a long time about being the boss. I think another tip is to show your appreciation for your employees’ efforts.
One of the best articles I've read about management. I wish I had been able to read this before I started my first manager role - but then I probably still would've had to learn all the lessons myself anyways! Thanks for sharing Jo
So true, I'm glad it's not just me, and there are many tips here I still need to get better at following, so thank you. I find managing people one of the most rewarding parts of the job... and the most draining! It's also only ever been my people-related issues that have kept me up at night. I agree that explaining the rationale, being transparent, honest and consistent are the best tips for showing others that you're still human!
This made me laugh as all of what you have written is so so true! 😂
I first become a manager at 25 and I had all the same thoughts you have written so brilliantly. I was also very much aware of how young I was and how I was managing people older than me. I learnt very quickly that they didn't have to necessarily like me but I did need to build up respect, trust and show a level of competence along with learning various management styles that suited the individuals. It's a tough gig and can be lonely as you say but I always tried to remember that if they all like you, you are doing something wrong and that served me well!
Tip # 11: Don't be brusque?
But seriously, well articulated and written. I wish you had done this and I had it to pass along to some of my former bosses. God, how I wish that.
I found out someone I’d been bending over backwards to help when they were off with stress was then slagging me off at the Xmas party - saying I hadn’t supported them enough. I was really upset but my mum said “you’ve made it!” And she was right - it was bound to happen eventually and now I can laugh, but I was upset at the time for sure!
Such good advice Jo.
Isn’t the ‘chill the f**k out, it’s not important mindset’ when it comes to colleagues just so liberating and only comes with age really. If I could get back the time I spent busting a gut worrying about my popularity in the workplace. But then would we automatically have the balance in our views today because of age or experience I wonder
This is the most practical advice I’ve seen in a long time about being the boss. I think another tip is to show your appreciation for your employees’ efforts.
One of the best articles I've read about management. I wish I had been able to read this before I started my first manager role - but then I probably still would've had to learn all the lessons myself anyways! Thanks for sharing Jo
So true, I'm glad it's not just me, and there are many tips here I still need to get better at following, so thank you. I find managing people one of the most rewarding parts of the job... and the most draining! It's also only ever been my people-related issues that have kept me up at night. I agree that explaining the rationale, being transparent, honest and consistent are the best tips for showing others that you're still human!
This made me laugh as all of what you have written is so so true! 😂
I first become a manager at 25 and I had all the same thoughts you have written so brilliantly. I was also very much aware of how young I was and how I was managing people older than me. I learnt very quickly that they didn't have to necessarily like me but I did need to build up respect, trust and show a level of competence along with learning various management styles that suited the individuals. It's a tough gig and can be lonely as you say but I always tried to remember that if they all like you, you are doing something wrong and that served me well!
OMG this is so true!! Great writing Jo!!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 oh so true
Nice one Elvin! It’s tough at the top! X